Why should we practice SELF LOVE

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A few days ago was Valentine’s Day 2020… Did you receive flowers? Chocolate? If yes, who gave them to you? Your boyfriend/girlfriend? Your spouse?

What if you gave them to yourself?

-Whaat????? Don’t be ridiculous…..!!!! Why should I be spending money on myself???-

Because you are the most important person in the World!!!

Loving yourself is really important and it’s the base of a happy life, healthy relationships, success in your work field…and yet…so many people think it’s a lot of rubbish…

What is self-love?

Self-love is loving the self, putting yourself before other people.

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I know it sounds pretentious and selfish, but as they say: “You can’t pour from an empty glass…!”

Putting yourself in front of others does not mean being horrible to other people, or ignoring them… it means not being horrible to yourself and not ignoring your needs!

Self-love means taking care of yourself, make sure you are happy, relaxed, rested… I know… as a mum this is all that we are NOT, but practicing self-love means make sure you include these things in your day… and… most important… you don’t feel guilty for it…!

Practicing self-love means allowing yourself to calm your mind, do some meditation, have a relaxing soak, go for a walk… do something just for yourself! Without the kids, the dog, the cat, the goldfish or anybody else….!

Self-love means loving yourself the same way you love your children and attend to your needs the same way you would do with theirs… Mama, you are sooooo important!!!! Your family depends on you, that is why you have to make sure you are 100%! For them and more importantly… for YOU!

Why do people think that they should not practice self-love?

I don’t know…! It’s beyond me…!!!

I believe that society makes us always look at other people, for good behaviours, and for bad ones… In the news, there is always someone worse off than you and in the magazine, there is always someone better off than you…

Everything is always out there… we are pushed to look and pay attention to the others, so much so that we grow up completely ignoring ourselves…

Relaxing bath time…

We don’t think we are important… as teenagers, we think our friends are more important than us, as grown up we think our children or our spouse are more important than us, even our pets are more important than us…!

We should go back to our baby years… babies have it all figured out…! As babies, if you take my toy, I’ll take it back because it was mine! My needs are as important as yours (I want to play with that toy) but then it seems that growing up we forget that…

Why should we practice self-love?

Self-love is the base of true happiness… without self-love your happiness will always depend on “something else”.

Society tells us that happiness is to be found in things, places, other people…“That next job will make me happy… that new relationship will be exactly what I need to feel loved… I can’t wait for that holiday to be happy…”

This is where we go wrong… whilst we keep on searching for our happiness “Out there” we will never find it… Happiness is not in things or people… they come and go… happiness is within ourselves and practicing self-love is exactly what we need to start realising it!

I started practicing self-love around 20 years ago after something traumatic happened to my life… at this point I realised that I could either live my life the way I wanted or I could live it the way other people expected me to live it… Guess what I chose…?

Yes, I decided to live my dream and move to a different country, I had my whole family against me (I believe they were worried more than anything else) but I still did what I wanted to do. My decision did not hurt them, I made sure it wouldn’t, then I just went for it!

I put my needs first, I practiced self-love and I am so happy I did it!

The more you take care of yourself, the more you nurture your inner-self and realise you are soooo important! You are the most important person in the world!!!

Books, macarons, candles… relaxing time

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Practicing self-love also means allowing yourself to follow your passions and allowing yourself to become the person you were born to be! I realised that I have still so much more to give and so much more to achieve, that is why I have started self-educating online and creating my own online business through the SFM community.

If you are ready to start practicing a bit of self-love and re-discover your dreams and your true potential, click the “Start Here!” button here below to start your new adventure. You are soooo worth it!!!

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