Why I travelled all the way to the Gold Coast -Australia- for only 1 day…

Errrmm… because you are crazy??? Yep… I have heard that a few too many times lately… But let me explain the real reason…

World map London-Singapore (first stop)

3 months ago I have decided to sign up to an online education company called Six Figure Mentors (Sfm) as I wanted to change my life and improve my financial situation. I am a mum of 2 beautiful boys, one is 18 months and the other one is nearly 6 years old. I love them and my husband more than life itself but I realised I need to feel fulfilled as a person.

Joining the Sfm made me realise that we all have something of value to offer to the world, building my website and starting to understand about online marketing made me understand that I have so much potential and I would be doing a disservice to myself and to other people if I was not to live my life to the full.

Around 1 month ago I heard in the community of a great gathering called Momentum Day that was going to happen in the Gold Coast, Australia. I immediately felt drawn to it but how on earth could I afford to go to Australia???? I have always wanted to go there but never been able to do it…

Starting the 24h journey

I have started to change the way I think about life, started practicing the Law of Attraction , started thinking I can manifest the things I want in my life by thinking about them and feeling as if I already have them.

I have started thinking I wanted to manifest some extra funds to allow me to go to Australia and attend Momentum Day, I have thought about it every day for 2 weeks (at least) and then…the magic happened… I actually received some money out of the blue… I was astonished…

I immediately booked my flights (I already booked a hotel room even before getting the money… it was a refundable one, but I think it really gave me a push to want it even more…!)

Eventually, the day came when I left for Australia… I was starting to get a bit worried about the long journey, being on a plane for many many hours (the longest flight I have ever done was 4 hours…) and being away from my family…

I decided not to get overwhelmed and that I would only think about “the next step”, like getting on the first plane, then once I was there I would think of when we would get some dinner and so forth (airplane food was amaaaaazing!!! I really enjoyed it!!! And I didn’t have to cook for once!!!; ) ). I think this really helped…

Once I eventually arrived to the Gold Coast I was so impressed with myself! I knew I would make it! And I was finally living the image I created in my life, of me walking into my hotel!!!

After a shower and some lovely lunch (or dinner… depending what time zone you refer to…) I decided to have a look around Surfers Paradise and the hotel where Momentum Day was going to take place the day after.

I walked into the hotel… a bit unsure… not sure where the reception was but the bar was there…so I thought “I’ll go there and ask for info…” and there he was… Mr. Jay Kubassek, only the Co-founder of Sfm!!!!

I could not believe my eyes!!!

I hardly slept for 24 hours, a bit jetlagged, not really feeling worthy of speaking to him…but I thought: “This is why I travelled to the other side of the world!!! To meet him and the other Sfm leaders, learn from them and show my appreciation! Go and talk to him!!”

And so I did… I sheepishly approached him and introduced myself… He was very kind and seemed very impressed with my dedication and the courage to travel such a long way for such a short period of time…

I told Jay how much being there for Momentum Day meant to me and how glad I was that I did it! I explained that although I joined Sfm not that long ago, I really felt I resonate with their message of “Living your best life”! At the end of the day, it’s our life, we make the decisions that shape it! There is no good or bad fortune in life, it’s all about what you do with what you have been given! Even something terrible could turn out to be a blessing in disguise or something that will change you and make you a better person in the future!

After my little chat with Jay (as you do…) I decided to explore a bit more my surrounding, I had to see the Ocean!!! I walked there (oh, by the way, I forgot to say that I can’t read maps… so everywhere I go is “mapless”, I get lost most of the time…but I always get there in the end…).

Taking my shoes off and walking on the soft white sand felt like such a blessing… I was trying to take in as much as possible, the sand, the waves, the people, the surfers, the wind, the skyscrapers, the excitement… I wanted to take in EVERYTHING!!!! I walked in the water and it was so gorgeous and warm the perfect temperature!!!! (I hate cold water and normally the sea is cold… so it was a nice surprise!!!) I felt so so so happy!!! I followed my instinct and I got there!

The day after (after a nice long deeeep sleep) it was Momentum Day. I could not believe it!! I was so excited!!! When I got there for registration, so many fellow Sfm-ers were there already and everyone was smiling and happy to start a conversation! I felt at home, so relaxed and so excited at the same time!

The whole day was a massive high of emotions, from everyone… I cried at a certain point… just too much emotion, positive emotions…! Everyone was being honest and vulnerable as we all knew we were in a safe environment to express our feelings… It was so liberating…

I plucked the courage to speak to Stuart Ross, the other Co-founder of Sfm and I explained to him my vision and the message I want to bring to the world, about empowering mums (like me) to live their best lives and not let motherhood define and limit them! He was very supportive and reinforced my feelings of “having made the right choice…”

The whole day came and went in what seemed to be a flash, a beautiful flash of emotions and joy. The conversations I had with everyone there (not just the leaders) have been eye-opening and made me believe that we can all follow our paths if we just believe in ourselves a bit more and do not let society shape our future…

So, if you resonate with any of the above and would like to know more, please get in touch with me directly or just click the pink button here below. I can’t wait for you to start living your best life…. Where will it take you?

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Why should we practice SELF LOVE

Red roses

A few days ago was Valentine’s Day 2020… Did you receive flowers? Chocolate? If yes, who gave them to you? Your boyfriend/girlfriend? Your spouse?

What if you gave them to yourself?

-Whaat????? Don’t be ridiculous…..!!!! Why should I be spending money on myself???-

Because you are the most important person in the World!!!

Loving yourself is really important and it’s the base of a happy life, healthy relationships, success in your work field…and yet…so many people think it’s a lot of rubbish…

What is self-love?

Self-love is loving the self, putting yourself before other people.

Hart shape

I know it sounds pretentious and selfish, but as they say: “You can’t pour from an empty glass…!”

Putting yourself in front of others does not mean being horrible to other people, or ignoring them… it means not being horrible to yourself and not ignoring your needs!

Self-love means taking care of yourself, make sure you are happy, relaxed, rested… I know… as a mum this is all that we are NOT, but practicing self-love means make sure you include these things in your day… and… most important… you don’t feel guilty for it…!

Practicing self-love means allowing yourself to calm your mind, do some meditation, have a relaxing soak, go for a walk… do something just for yourself! Without the kids, the dog, the cat, the goldfish or anybody else….!

Self-love means loving yourself the same way you love your children and attend to your needs the same way you would do with theirs… Mama, you are sooooo important!!!! Your family depends on you, that is why you have to make sure you are 100%! For them and more importantly… for YOU!

Why do people think that they should not practice self-love?

I don’t know…! It’s beyond me…!!!

I believe that society makes us always look at other people, for good behaviours, and for bad ones… In the news, there is always someone worse off than you and in the magazine, there is always someone better off than you…

Everything is always out there… we are pushed to look and pay attention to the others, so much so that we grow up completely ignoring ourselves…

Relaxing bath time…

We don’t think we are important… as teenagers, we think our friends are more important than us, as grown up we think our children or our spouse are more important than us, even our pets are more important than us…!

We should go back to our baby years… babies have it all figured out…! As babies, if you take my toy, I’ll take it back because it was mine! My needs are as important as yours (I want to play with that toy) but then it seems that growing up we forget that…

Why should we practice self-love?

Self-love is the base of true happiness… without self-love your happiness will always depend on “something else”.

Society tells us that happiness is to be found in things, places, other people…“That next job will make me happy… that new relationship will be exactly what I need to feel loved… I can’t wait for that holiday to be happy…”

This is where we go wrong… whilst we keep on searching for our happiness “Out there” we will never find it… Happiness is not in things or people… they come and go… happiness is within ourselves and practicing self-love is exactly what we need to start realising it!

I started practicing self-love around 20 years ago after something traumatic happened to my life… at this point I realised that I could either live my life the way I wanted or I could live it the way other people expected me to live it… Guess what I chose…?

Yes, I decided to live my dream and move to a different country, I had my whole family against me (I believe they were worried more than anything else) but I still did what I wanted to do. My decision did not hurt them, I made sure it wouldn’t, then I just went for it!

I put my needs first, I practiced self-love and I am so happy I did it!

The more you take care of yourself, the more you nurture your inner-self and realise you are soooo important! You are the most important person in the world!!!

Books, macarons, candles… relaxing time

Keep on growing

Practicing self-love also means allowing yourself to follow your passions and allowing yourself to become the person you were born to be! I realised that I have still so much more to give and so much more to achieve, that is why I have started self-educating online and creating my own online business through the SFM community.

If you are ready to start practicing a bit of self-love and re-discover your dreams and your true potential, click the “Start Here!” button here below to start your new adventure. You are soooo worth it!!!

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Believe in it… Everything is possible…

Today I want to share this video with you. It’s about self belief… If you believe something is possible don’t let anyone else tell you that it isn’t… Follow your heart!

I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. Let me know in the comments here below what you think of it.

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Meditation and the Law of Attraction

In our day and age, more and more people are becoming interested in Meditation and the Law of Attraction. “…I have heard about Meditation but what is the Law of Attraction? Do I need to go and study Law now….?” The answer is simply… “No, don’t worry, you don’t have to study anything…

Lady meditating

Meditation is simply closing your eyes and doing nothing… Easier said than done… believe me! The Law of Attraction is asking the Universe for what you desire, believe that you will receive it, and then receive it! Let me show you in this blog how I came across both Meditation and LoA (Law of Attraction) in my life and how now I could not live without them.

Meditation

My first experience with meditation was about 10 years ago… I was a bit broken at that time, coming out of a longish relationship, I had to move out of where I used to live and I was unsure about my future… Then a Meditation/Mindfulness course came along and I decided to join up. The aim of the course was to focus on the Present Moment and let go of the chatter that we constantly have going on in our head 24/7. This was an eye-opener! It sounds silly now but I did not realise I had the power to switch off (or at least notice and try to tame) the river of thoughts I had in my brain… at the end of the day, it is my brain! Meditation showed me that by sitting still, focusing on my breath and just observing my thoughts (not restraining them or engaging in them) would help my mind relax…

One of my mentors made an analogy that really stuck with me… here it is: “Our minds are like puppies… they get really excited and jump from one thought to the other… Through meditation, we aim to calm the puppy down and show it how to behave like an obedient and calm dog…”

The first experiences of meditation can be frustrating as our bodies (and minds!) are not used to staying still! The secret is just to find a comfortable position (I find that a comfortable chair or sofa are the best), close your eyes and just don’t do anything… Refrain from moving any part of your body, refrain from scratching that itch (there will always be an itch when meditating… always!!! 😉 ) just let your body sink into a state of relaxation.

Incense burner

It might take a while at the beginning, I would suggest some guided meditation at first. This helps you as you just follow the instruction given. Here is a good one that I do myself: Jack Canfield video -5 min. meditation- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QMz4Y4YIaDY

Alternatively, you could just sit and let your mind and body relax in their own time…

Sometimes it will be hard to just “sit and do nothing” at the end of the day we “…ain’t got the whole day to faff around doing nothing… we have houses to clean, children to attend, meals to prepare, etc…” I know… I am there as well… but trust me… even 10 minutes per day will really help you feel more relaxed, happier and more full of energy!

Law of Attraction

I had never heard of the Law of Attraction until 5 months ago when I stumbled upon it by pure chance… (the best things in life happen like this… even meeting your future husband… but that’s another story… 😉 ). I was just browsing the internet looking for some inspirations when I bumped into something that attracted my attention. It was someone talking about this book and a movie called “The Secret”. The name was very intriguing but I did not do anything about it… The seed of doubt was in my head tho’… and I had to check it out… I sat down watching the movie (it’s more a documentary) and things started to make sense… “Could it really be that easy?” I thought to myself? The Law of Attraction states that there are 3 simple steps to achieving anything you want in your life… These are:

  1. Ask for it
  2. Believe in it
  3. Receive it
The Universe in a jar!

It really did sound too good to be true… and why has it never worked before…? I have asked for so many things in my life and I haven’t always received it…?

The trick with the LoA is step number 2… BELIEVE in it… Believe you have it even before you have it! By practice and failure, more practice and a bit more failure, I realised that the LoA works if we believe it will, if we start visualising the life and the things we want… Thoughts are powerful things and they DO become REALITY! Something major just happened to me, I just manifested something that I really put my mind to! I imagined myself being in the place I wanted to be, I smelled the perfumes, I felt the happiness and joy I would have felt when achieving my wish and BAM! For the first time in my life, IT MANIFESTED! I am still in shock and awe! I will tell you more about this in the near future 😉

So, just to re-cap, give meditation a try! Find 10 minutes a day just for YOURSELF and do nothing! Relax your body and mind and wait for the changes to happen! And ASK THE UNIVERSE for the life and things you want. Believe in them, live them, feel them, experience them in your mind and they will become a reality! Thoughts are powerful things!

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Becoming a work from home mum…where my self-discovery started

“Having a baby changes your life…” who agrees with me? Yep… I can see a few raised hands… But having a child does not mean that our life as a person has ended and now we are just to be known as “MUM” forever and ever. In this post, I will share with you why I think that becoming a mum does not mean giving up on yourself but on the contrary, it could be the beginning of discovering your true potential.

Before having my children, I was, like the vast majority of people, working the good old 9-5… It never really even occurred to me that there could be another way… Every time I heard of someone creating a life for themselves I always thought: “…Hmmm… probably they come from a rich family…Who in the real world can afford to follow their dreams?”

My first son

When I fell pregnant with my first son, I still had that mentality, and only 9 months after the little one was born I had to return to work. You can imagine the sadness and the tears (both mine and his, on that first day at nursery and my first day back in the office).

I could not see another way… in our life, we have to work… everyone knows that right? But deep down I started to realise that spending time in the office rather than with my son, paying for somebody else to be with him and basically “do my job as a mum” was wrong…

My second son

By the time I got pregnant with my second son, I knew that there must have been another way… I started my maternity leave quite early due to some health issues and in this time, whilst I was growing and blooming (to say the least…) I started to rediscover myself.

I started following free short courses on the internet, several Universities offer short free courses (a couple of weeks) on the most interesting and thoughts provoking subjects, I have done one on medicine through time (reading about how the Romans dealt with their newborn wasn’t exactly pleasant whilst heavily pregnant…) and my next one would have been about Music-psychology…

I joined a pregnancy yoga class and met other mums to be, it was lovely to be able to talk about common aches and pains and share tips on how to “survive” pregnancy… 😉 The deep relaxation from the classes carried on at home when I started practicing meditation… I did not do anything fancy, no candles, cushions, etc… (you can do it if you want… nothing wrong with that…!) I just closed my eyes and relaxed. The realisation that all I had to do was sit there, doing nothing, allowing all the worry and doubtful thoughts to just slip away from me was immense… Then baby was born…

Lack of sleep… getting to grip with breastfeeding (again… you think when you do it once you then remember… no…not in my case…it felt like I had to start from scratch again…), dealing with the older son trying to kiss the new-born every single second… yes… it was a bit manic… then, to top it all up, my husband got made redundant and we had to move…

The realisation

This is when I realised that there must be more to life than work your socks off for someone else and then be told: “Thank you very much for your hard work, however, we don’t need you anymore…goodbye!”

There are people out there who do what they love and make a living out of it! That sounds much better to me…! I knew I wanted to change, I knew then that I wanted to find out more, I wanted to learn more on how to discover and pursue my dreams…

I started scouting the internet, I learned about self-development, self-love, gratitude, Law of attraction, I watched the movie “The Secret” and it all started making sense… Our purpose in life is to be HAPPY! Not to work 9-5 to make somebody else rich…

I realised I wanted to start an online business reaching out to mums like me who are in the process of “waking up to their full potential”, mums who have more to give, mums who want to show the world that just because they have beautiful children, it does not mean they are not able to still realise their dreams! After all, like Beyonce says: “Who runs the world?” I say: “MUMS”! 😉

What are your thoughts on this? Let me know in the comments below!

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